If there is a person that you know who is an alcoholic and needs help, Al-Anon is one of the most effective groups of helping the achieve that. These gatherings provided much-needed support and healing.
Al- Anon is a support organization for the friends and family members of problem drinkers, founded in 1951. This organization was founded by Lois Wilson, who is also popular by the name of Lois W and Al Anon came into being 16 years after the formation of Alcoholics Anonymous [AA] by her husband. The group was started for the sole purpose of assisting alcoholic family members recover which was something she was facing in her life. Financial contributions are done by the members of the group itself which keep it running. There are meetings available through the assistance of family members and friends of alcoholics to cope with and better serve the interests of their loved ones even if they are in different stages of recovery.
The key activity of Al-Anon is to support its members - drunkards' relatives - by making them realize that they are not alone.
Alcoholism Affecting The Whole Family
Since it has a deleterious influence on both the drinker and those around them, Al-anon treats the disease of alcoholism as a family illness. A clear-cut system of friends and family members support is an integral part of recovery from alcoholism.
Lack of understanding the cause of their loved one's drinking problem makes family members suffer self-condemnation and also not know how to deal with the problem. Support meetings can help deal about these issues in the best way while also making members understand that alcoholism should be treated as a family illness.
Alateen- Al-Anon For Teenagers
A particular group called Alateen assists young people impacted by alcoholism in their family is also run by Al-Anon.
The meetings held by Alateen help youngsters to meet with individuals within their age group in order to make their experiences more beneficial and interrelated.
Reasons To Partake In An Al-Anon Group
The people in the group are struggling like you or are going through what you are experiencing as a victim of alcoholism. All are different, yet Al- Anon members have all had similar experiences in their struggles. Al-Anon provides a key benefit and that is to help people finding others who have had similar experiences to talk about. Al-Anon meetings are held all over the country. Give us a call on 0800 772 3971 to assist you find one close by you.
What Happens During The Meetings
The meetings held by Al-Anon are open to any individual who could be affected by the alcoholism of another individual. You just need to identify whether the alcoholism of a particular individual is concerning you and make it known it is affecting your lifestyle, and rest assured that Al-Anon can provide the assistance you need.
Some of the attendees are reluctant to go to their first meeting because they do not know what to expect. Here are some things to remember when considering whether to attend a meeting:
Al-Anon is anonymous meaning you do not identify yourself in the meeting
All the members of this group have had an encounter with an alcoholic in their lives
Getting things off your chest is one way of recovery encouraged in this group although it is not mandatory
Different Types Of Meetings Are Held For Everyone
Some of them may be more effective for you than other ones.
Al-Anon is not an organization which is based on any religion
The 12 recovery steps are followed in this group
Going to the meeting means that you accept the fact that there are matters discussed that will be of help to you or not. In this way, instead of telling attendees what they should do, meetings target on exchanging experiences and difficulties.
The recovery stages are outlined before the meeting starts. These 12 steps have been adapted from a similar program which is also implemented by Alcoholics Anonymous. Al-Anon members start with a sponsor who assists them work through the steps and who is ready for help in times of difficulty, mostly similar to AA. The 12 Steps are as follows:
We did admit we were powerless over alcoholism, that our lives became unmanageable indeed.
This is the point where alcoholism recognised as a conditioner that has affected them all.
Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Pretty often members try to change or control their significant others and drive themselves to the verge.
The members then recognise the fact that there is a solution out there for them.
Made a resolution to turn our lives and our will over to the care of God in a way we perceived Him.
Accepting the condition and seeking help is the best way of solving it.
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Self-discovery is an essential component of the steps, and this is the start of that.
A list of how they may have offended themselves or their loved ones (such as with threats) is made by attendees.
Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Then follows going through the list one item at a time and dealing with each.
Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
This is a very important step, as it is the complete acceptance of the process of recovery supported by a Higher Power.
Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
This part of the twelve step process helps people realize how controlling or judgmental they have been towards an alcoholic and how counterproductive it is.
Made a list of all persons we had harmed and be willing to make amends with them.
The road to recovery is a personal effort.
Lots of people tend to blame themselves for addiction of their significant others.
They must be willing and prepared to forgive themselves and to make amends.
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible unless to do so would injure them or others.
After you are willing to make amends, the following step is to act on it.
Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
Passing through these twelve Steps is a time-consuming process.
There is also a possibility for relapse when trying to recover in the program.
Step 10 makes this clear that the process takes long.
Through prayer and meditation endeavoured to improve our conscious contact with God as we perceived Him, praying only for learning His will for us and the strength to do it.
This is taking personal spiritual responsibility and surrender so as to start healing.
Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
The last step includes perception that the persons journey is not over yet.
Encouragement is provided to members to support other members with their education.
Knowledge Of Higher Power
Members do have an acceptance of a higher power, even though Al-Anon is not a religious program. However, the notion of "higher power" can be interpreted depending on one's personal beliefs. All religions are well represented and no one is forced to change to another religion.